Single in Sin City

A good girls survival guide to dating in Las Vegas

Ahhh..Memories

About 2 years ago I went on a date with a  U.S. Marshal. He was kind of intense but we had a great first meeting. For our second date, we went to a local bar for drinks. We had a nice date. We chatted and there seemed to be chemistry. The date ended on a solid note.

He text me that night. Then he text me the following day and we had this conversation:

“I am really attracted to you and you seem like a good woman. Do you know what I’ve always really wanted?” I replied with,” What?”  He proceeded to tell me this, “I’ve always secretly wanted to be with a woman who will cheat on me with multiple men. Maybe even let me watch.”  WTF??? “Well that’s not really what I’m into and we are not looking for the same thing.” (NOW I just think this dude is another LV Douche Bag. Scratch this homeboy off the list..ya know!) Lastly, he replied with, “Oh me either, I was just playing.”

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Moral: Can you say delete and block?? I can!  I guess my moral is simple today. Dating is HARD! Hang in there and remember you are not alone in the struggle.  Oh and if you have these types of desires…wait until you really know the person. Derr…

Until Next Time…Ciao

 

 

April 21, 2014 Posted by | Dating Advice, First Dates | , , , , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Say What?? Things You DON’T Ever Really Need To Say

We’ve all done it! We’ve all encountered the type of situation where you just decided you wanted to see what your own foot tastes like. In fact, if I had a quarter for every time I did it, I would have at least $0.75. (yeah I’m kinda sorta lying.) The truth is, I’ve had so many experiences where I have opened my mouth and the words just flew out. I quickly reached for them so I could put them back in my mouth but I couldn’t catch them in time. I knew those gosh darn words were wrong the second they left my mouth but there was no going back. My only recourse was hasty apologies. You see, people like to say that words don’t hurt but they do. Did you know that it takes, 7 compliments to counteract one insult? It’s true because I read it on the internet…derr. Okay, seriously have you ever noticed how much easier it is to believe the bad stuff you hear about yourself. I don’t care if you believe it or not. It took years of positive reinforcement to see myself as who I am today…and I do see myself positively. (No offense..okay..I’m just in one of my über blunt moods. I received a troublesome phone call from someone and I am hoping he gets a flesh-eating bacteria on his butt… the curable “yet painful” kind.) Back to the topic at hand! Let’s discuss some things you should not say..ever really.

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  • “Not to be rude but” or “No offense but” (If you need to phrase a statement with this type of opening line, follow my grandmother’s advice and don’t. If you know you’re going to be rude, don’t say it! Duh!)
  • “To make a long story short.” (All I can think of when I hear this line is..too late.) I know it’s not offensive..it just bugs me so I decided to add it. I think it’s the full moon.
  • Do not tell a man you care about that he is a punk. (Or a wussy or anything non manly. It has been my experience that men take that very seriously. It is much better to demonstrate respect to a man-even when it’s only partially deserved. If you treat a man like a man, the chances are he will be encouraged to act like one. Try it…what can you lose?)
  • Do not tell a woman you care about anything negative about her appearance-especially non-solicited comments. (Argue with me if you want but a woman will usually blossom under adoration. If you make a woman feel beautiful and adored through kind words and actions, you will assist in creating an empowered, confident woman. The results will blow your mind.)***QUALIFIER: You can’t make her confident as a person but you might make her confident in your feelings about her-this is what I am referring to***
  • Do not EVER ask a woman if she’s pregnant unless you know she is. The results could be awful. (Oh I’ve been there and done that..but she straight up looked prego…I swear. I never assume anymore.)
  • I do not recommend laughing at a mans actions, thoughts or behavior…well not to his face. I have been guilty of this. Not intentionally..but if I get laughed at over running from a bug, I take it in stride. When men get laughed at (in my humble and limited experience) they take it as a sign of disrespect. I’m pretty sure about this but hey it’s just my opinion-right?
  • Don’t ever ask a person to let you know when they are finished talking. (Yes I AM speaking from personal experience. Boy howdy did I make someone at work mad by asking her that…oops)
  • If someone angrily asks you why you’re looking at them like they have something on their face..don’t say, “Actually you do..right there” or any variation of that. (That one will cause you problems..been there done it. heehee)
  • Don’t ever tell your boyfriend/girlfriend that you would never marry them. Oh and especially don’t tell your boyfriend/girlfriend that you want to be married some day AND you don’t want to marry them. (They seem to get offended by that..go figure..)

I could go on and on but I don’t really want to. What’s my moral? Please think before you speak. This is sage advice I practice all the time. I am naturally forthright; and I always tend to unabashedly say what is on my mind. Sometimes, we really shouldn’t. In a relationship of any kind, it may cause irreversible damage. So if you don’t think you should say it….um don’t.

 

Until Next Time…Ciao!

June 25, 2013 Posted by | Just for Fun, Personal Growth, Uncategorized | , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Love Songs That Suck!

I’m gonna hate a little bit. Sometimes I love me a love song. Unlike some people I know, when I am upset, love songs are not what I want to hear. In fact, all I wanna do is listen to rap music when I get in a mood like I am tonight. However, I can appreciate a beautiful song. (Just not tonight.) What I don’t get is certain songs that make no sense. If anyone reading this can offer an interpretation of one of the songs below that makes sense I would love to hear it.

So just for fun (it really is just for fun), I’ve created a list of love songs or songs of love (heehee) that I have never understood. Let the ranting begin.

  • Love the One You’re With by Crosby Stills Nash-Man I’ve never liked this one. Not as a kid when my mother played it and not now. “If you can’t be with the one you love, love the one you’re with.” How depressing. I especially feel bad for the woman he refers to as being with currently. I mean. “Honey I love you cuz you’re here.” That’s how this song makes me feel.
  • Creep by TLC – Yeah this may not make the love song category but I gotta include it. First let me say that I LOVE TLC. I just don’t get this song. “I love my man with all honesty but I know he’s cheating on me.” um..ok this isn’t good girlfriend. Then you hear, “Tho I might mess around, it’s only cuz I need some affection.” SO um…..why are they still together? Am I stupid to think this? I am not judging but if he’s cheating and she’s cheating—-why are they still together? That’s all I gotta say about that.
  • I’d Do Anything for Love by Meatloaf – What won’t you do Meatloaf? (who kinda scares me by the way) I mean he will go to hell and back for love. That’s a lot! I wish he would make a sequel and tell us what he won’t do. I need closure…just sayin
  • She Loves You by the Beatles – I also LOVE the Beatles and I get this is just a catchy lil number but it made the list for the Top 50 Love Songs of All Time..really? http://www.billboard.com/articles/list/1538839/top-50-love-songs-of-all-time?list_page=2
  • Unfaithful by Rihanna – I LOATHE this song. When it comes on the radio, I change the channel out of principle. Such a beautiful melody and voice wasted by this. “He’s more than a man and this is more than love, the reason why the sky is blue……and to him I can’t be true.” This whole song is about how she madly loves the man she keeps cheating on. I.Don’t.Get.It. I really don’t. It’s so easy..stop it girlfriend. derr…

I know that some people don’t get why I like the music I do..I just do. Sometimes it’s the anger or the ego behind it. Sometimes the dancer in me just likes the beat. I guess I’m different..pun intended..This song below is one of my favorites. It’s the type of music that can momentarily distract me from depression or anxiety. (but the mother in me has to warn you to not listen if your kids are around or if you’re easily offended by bad language.) I’m not…so there.

Moral for today? Well…If I were to really stretch I guess I could offer that it does not matter what type of music you like as long as you find comfort in it…but that’s REALLY stretching it. Let’s just call it a fun post. Until next time..Ciao!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e2QKlmMT8II

May 5, 2013 Posted by | Just for Fun | , , , , , | 1 Comment